‘The
development of shame is lodged in early attachment experiences with the primary
caregiver. It is these early experiences
that create internal working models of relational worth and ways of relating to
others which create a template for future relationships’ (Bowlby 1969)
We all experience shame in our lives to a greater or lesser degree, but how we respond to our shame and process it will determine whether our shame becomes damaging to our intrinsic worth and sense of self. Loss of contact in relationship is the root cause of most shame experiences. Shame is an individual’s core belief that there is something wrong with them. Our early shame experiences become internalised and can cause a ripple effect in how they impact our relationships and our ability to be in relationship in the present. Being in relationship with an empathic, non-judgemental, listening therapist can be a reparative and affirming experience for the client.
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